Discomfort and eyestrain from side nosepads? Ethmoid sinuses relieved by unifit or strap bridge?

For many years, I've been wearing metal frames with side nosepads. My
last pair had lighter lenses, and the pair before had larger pads
(which looked OK because it was a large frame), which probably
distributed the weight better. But my current frames are driving me
absolutely nuts. I've been traumatized by a pulling sensation in the
eyes, I feel like I just want to stare. My eyes don't seem to move as
easily, they hurt when they move, harder to refocus and concentrate,
hard to concentrate when reading and scanning text...especially on the
computer. My eyes basically go slightly berserk. I perceived this as
due to distortions and lack of optical acuity. Certainly not
presbyopia, I'm only 25, and my doc said my eyes are quite healthy,
aside from being quite myopic (-4 -1.25 180).

But I've noticed that elevating my current stylish rectangular metal
half-rim frames off the sides of my nose with a cotton ball is really
relieving my headaches. This is true whether my eyes are open or
closed. Of course I notice it more when I'm actually trying to see,
and everything feels locked up.

I noticed this before, just lifting them off the nose with my hands.
But I felt my improved comfort was simply because of the increased
vertex distance relieving accommodation stress, and averaging out
errors that need redoing--astigmatism too high in one lens, an overly
narrow PD, and the OC's being raised up into place. Certainly, these
corrections will probably help also. But I believe perhaps discomfort
is actually contributing moreso to my visual difficulties.

I don't trust my current optical. They wouldn't even replace my
acrylic nosepads with silicone to stop the slipping on my oily
skin...I complained and they said that replacing them would not help.
Either they are actually very stupid, or just provide poor
service--especially for an independent. (I have had similar problems
previously at Sears). Exasperated, I took my new frames to a Sams'
Club while shopping and had round silicone nosepads fitted...now they
stay in place, at least. They aren't really leaving marks. But they
still give me a headache.

Why do they even sell frames with pads on the sides? Am I in a
minority of people who experience discomfort there? I've read a few
accounts of how a "unifit" or "strap" bridge is more comfortable,
because of the way it distributes the weight. Using the cotton ball
between the pads produces a similar effect, but certainly isn't the
best permanent solution. What would be the best way to get the weight
away from any sinus areas or sensitive nerves, and distribute it well,
regardless of cosmetic value?...for times I really need to look good,
I'll wear contact lenses anyway.

My theory for why I might be particularly sensitive--the ethmoid
sinuses are located in this region between the eyes. Perhaps most
people's might not fall in that region, or be so sensitive. But I
come from a family of opera singers, and vocal resonance is enhanced
by the sinuses...we are trained to notice this and focus the sound
there...so because of a combination of training and genetics, mine are
probably more developed and sensitive than the average person. I do
notice that my singing does not sound as good with glasses. Sound,
from a performer's perspective, is actually highly influenced by
tactile sensation from internal vibrations, a feedback loop to help
refine and adjust one's technique. It doesn't take much weight to
dampen vibrations on a thin, resonant surface.

This region is also tied into the optic nerve. So it seems a pain
message could cause eye muscles to lock up, resulting in strain and
reduced eye motility. Anyone with a bad sinus headache can note
similar symptoms. Please refer to the following link for a more
in-depth reference:

http://www.myentphysician.com/scripts/content/anatomy/index.php?doctor=davidson

"The ethmoid structure is highly variable; in fact, every person's
ethmoid structure is unique, like a fingerprint."

And again, optical professionals in the Detroit area, I don't have
insurance, but I'll pay your worth for top-quality help.